Monday, June 25, 2012

What's Cool about Vampires?

I don’t understand the fascination with vampires these days.  Vampires scare me. I used to love watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer, the movie. I never watched the TV show. I had no interest.  I didn’t watch Buffy the Vampire Slayer because of the vampires. I loved that she was a total valley girl and it was funny.  I thought it was kind of scary the first few times I watched it.  I remember watching it at Atlantic Beach in North Carolina with my old best friend Jenny. I remember we got in a big fight once when we watched it, and Caboodles were flying, or maybe it was ice and Caboodles and doll carriages were another time.  I don’t understand the whole Twilight phenomenon. I don’t think that guys should twinkle or sparkle or whatever they do in that movie.  For the record, I am not a werewolf fan either if you were wondering.  I don’t know what the cool thing about pale creatures drinking blood is. I do absolutely love Count Duckula.  Yes, I own the first season of Count Duckula. How can you not love him and Nanny and Igor? It was one of the coolest shows ever.  I was so excited when I got that on DVD.  I totally was a dork when I watched it with my friend Ben and the Thames thing came up.  If you don’t know what I am talking about it, check it out on YouTube. If you remember you will have the same reaction we did. We both felt like we were transported to our childhoods together.  It was like mind blowing.

I admittedly love the movie My Best Friend is a Vampire, but that is also a comedy.  I know there are all kinds of movies and TV shows about vampires, not the funny nice ones but the carnal ones that are all about the gore and I don’t know, I just couldn’t get in to them. I didn’t really like Interview with a Vampire and you already know how I feel about Queen of the Damned.  If you missed that post, I can’t stand it.  Maybe if they had nice vampires like Count Duckula, who was a vegetarian, I would be more apt to liking them.  I think it is gross.  It is scary, and not for me.  One of my favorite foods is garlic, so I know I am safe from vampires.  I eat enough that I don’t think they would even come within 100 miles of me.

I just remembered this guy from high school named Jerry. He was a vampire. Not a real one obviously, but I remember being leery of him.  He had fangs. He was in my drama class and I heard stories of him trying to drink people’s blood, and maybe an animal or two.  He was also a grip so when I was in choir he was always lurking in the shadows behind the scenes of the auditorium.  There weren’t any creepy blood loss deaths when I was in school, but I wasn’t going to take my chances.

Do you like vampires? What is it that you like about them?

Saturday, June 23, 2012

Enjoy Garlic Joy!

I love garlic. I love it so much. I am like The Grinch because I might just have garlic in my soul.  Not in a bad way though. It is just so freaking delicious.  Garlic is so good for you and wards off the vampires. I love it in all forms. I am not too big on garlic powders or garlic salts but will use them in a pinch.  Garlic powder is good in pitas though.  When I was in Florida, in September visiting my mom before we went on the cruise, we went to Gecko Fest.  Of course it only made sense that Geico sponsored it. We stumbled on a booth for this garlic product. I of course had to try it.  I am after all the Garlic Queen. I tried it and fell in love.  It is called Garlic Joy. The name is extremely fitting because it brought me joy.  I wasn’t able to buy any at the time, but I thought about it for months.  We went to the farmers market, last week knowing they were going to be there. They go to all the events down here.  The woman asked me if I like garlic. I said I love garlic. I tried another sample and I bought a jar of the Original Garlic Joy Spread.  It comes in four flavors. I am the kind of woman that says don’t mess with my garlic. They also make spaghetti sauce and other gourmet foods. I am in love. There isn’t any dairy in it and it contains 12 cloves of garlic in each jar. I love that it is all natural and it makes me feel like I am in garlic heaven.

I love that I am able to take a short walk every week and buy some more anytime I want. It is so creamy and so good. If you love garlic as much as I do, you should order some Garlic Joy. You won’t be disappointed. I promise it is amazing.

No one asked me to write this, and or tweet about it. I gladly gave my $8.95 to them in exchange for a jar of Garlic Joy. Thank you to Garlic Joy though for making such a delicious product for me to enjoy.

Friday, June 22, 2012

My Neighborhood Directory

I was thinking about the neighborhood garage sale that my neighborhood has twice a year. I know they normally do it in May or June. I thought about possibly doing one myself.  I searched online and found my neighborhood’s website.  I had been there before and it was totally different. I tried to click on different things and a log in page popped up. I was thinking well how do I get a login? I clicked Register and started looking at the form.  One of the first things I noticed was Pet Information, at first I thought, I wonder why that is important. Then I saw it said description and emergency number.  Then it clicked.  I think that is brilliant. I have seen lost pets in our neighborhood, most of the time it was my old neighbor’s dogs, so I knew who they belonged to, but a person a street over might not know.  Pets get out on occasion, they are not just pets, and they are members of someone’s family.  I think it is awesome that my neighborhood is going the extra mile to include that in the online directory.  I would love to see that become a standard in a neighborhood directory all over the US and Canada too.

Of course there are basic information items in the directory too. They have the typical names and ages of your children. That would great for finding kids Noah’s age, and for those friends he meets on the bus.  He starts Kindergarten in August.  He knows his phone number but maybe some other kids won’t.  I will eventually teach him our home phone number too, so my cell phone isn’t the hub of Noah’s social network. 

What kinds of things are in your neighborhood directory?

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Learning from the Past

I believe that every relationship and friendship is a learning experience.  No matter if you were friends when you were young or if it only lasted a brief time.  Single serving friends can also be a learning experience.  You not only learn about someone else but you also learn about yourself.  I don’t believe in chance meetings, I believe that you are meant to meet the people you do.  I have had a few experiences where there were times I was in the same place many times with a person and hadn’t met them until it was the right time.  I thought about how many times our paths crossed in life and it was only by weird circumstances we actually met and became friends.

I want to share with you guys some things I have learned recently.  I was in a relationship with this guy; his name is changed for privacy reasons, in case he reads this. I will call him Rupert, because I always make Fight Club references in my posts and I already made one in the first paragraph.  Rupert is a nice guy. We had an odd but interesting relationship. He made me laugh so hard, I probably was snorting most of the time. We sang together. I could be a total dork and be myself with him. I was a total airhead sometimes. I would send him chip pictures that looked like animals. I was completely comfortable with him.  I just felt like he was so amazing and I did my normal thing by pushing him away. I did the whole jealous thing once.  I told him about my issues but at the same time, I failed at stopping doing it.  I finally realized that my problem was that I love whole heartedly but at the same time I didn’t know how to be loved.  I didn’t know how to relinquish control and just let myself be loved. I guess my heart had been guarded for so long that I wasn’t able to let go enough. That moment was a total epiphany.  I learned how to let a guy love me. I know that sounds completely ridiculous but at the same time, it made sense.  I feel like guys have loved me before, but not completely.  From that moment I stopped pushing him away.  I just was drunk in his love and it was amazing.

I also learned from Rupert was that it is ok to be a total complete dork and that they will love you anyways. I am prone to airhead moments. I wish I could remember what they were because they were so funny.  From the beginning I wasn’t afraid to be total self. Everyone in the beginning of a relationship wears a mask or hides something it seems like. I threw all my cards on the table. I had never done that before. I just felt a connection to him.  He was a dork like me and it worked. I could talk to him about the silliest things for hours and never have one of those moments of I want to stop talking and do something else.  It was weird but amazing. I couldn’t wait to talk to him every day.  Just felt so good and so right.
I learned that it was ok to trust someone and that not everyone is out there to hurt someone.  I learned that nice guys exist and not just in my family.  They are out there but they are rare.  I felt like a queen with him. I remember we were going to dinner and he remembered that my favorite food is Japanese. So, he looked in his GPS for a Japanese restaurant. We got lost and ended up at a Chinese place and I suggested we go to Panera since it was right there, he wouldn’t have it.  So, we kept driving to a Japanese restaurant.  I also learned I was a bad fibber. He always knew what was wrong even when I said nothing.  I know that I can’t lie if my life depended on it, but he could read me like a book. We finished each other’s sentences.   We definitely had a great time together. He was so kind and caring.  I had a really nasty cold and he is an RT and so he offered to listen to my breathing and see if I needed a breathing treatment.  Either he wanted to make sure I was ok or wanted to torture me by jamming a breathing tube down my 
throat, kidding of course.

We had our share of arguments too though. I think they came from misunderstandings and issues we both had. We were always able to forgive each other. It wasn’t serious stuff. Most of them were ridiculous things.  Both of us being divorced and heartbroken before caused extra things that were not really worth an argument for, usually my insecurities were the blame.  I learned to be more secure in who I am and that it is perfectly fine to be a dork.  I am not saying I am totally comfortable in my skin but I am a lot more comfortable than I was 6 or 7 months ago.  Life is always a work in progress. I am continuing to work on breaking out of my shell and not worrying so much. I am a worrier by nature, I always have been. I have spent a lot of time worrying about ridiculous things.  You can spend all day thinking about what if’s and miss out on moments in life.

I also learned that I am not a morning person. I already knew that though.  I am one of those people when I wake up I will probably wave at you instead of saying good morning until I am able to wake up some. I don’t like to be teased in the morning, and I was rude and I felt so bad about it and it was not ok. I am working on becoming a morning person.  I will never be perky in the morning but I am working on my decorum and learning to accept light morning teasing and my morning sarcasm.

I am listening to music and I will Remember You by Sarah McLaughlin came on, I love this song. It was my sister’s graduation song so I have been listening to this song for a long time.  One of the lyrics is, “So afraid to love you more afraid to lose clinging to a past that doesn’t let me choose. Once there was darkness deep in this night you gave me everything you had oh you gave me light”.  I feel like this song explains it.  I feel like the things I have learned from Rupert, totally changed my life and how I think and feel.  I thank him for these important lessons I have learned.  Even though we are no longer together, I am very grateful that we were at some point and I was able to learn some of the most important life lessons from him.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Twitter Convo about God

I was having a conversation with a friend on Twitter about God.  We were talking about churches and God and religion.  She and I have both had bad church experiences.  I went to a Wesleyan church when I was 17 and it was a total nightmare.  I felt so alone, the people were really mean, and it just wasn’t what I thought that church was.  It was not a good environment. It was like if you didn’t fit their exact image and thought the exact same way you were a leper.  I was always taught that you are supposed to love someone as Christ loves us.  I am not going to say I was perfect, because that would be a lie, no one is.  I am still not perfect because I am human, but I was lost.  I was a 17 year old girl lost, trying to seek out God.  I have always believed in God but I wasn’t sure of the answers I was seeking.  I was raised Catholic.  I went to a church looking for guidance and I was totally metaphorically stoned.  I know that I messed up some, but I owned up to it. 

What really bothered me was this youth group I joined would judge me for things and turn around and do the same things.  It was a very upsetting thing to go through.  I wasn’t acting like a maniac or anything; I was just different, trying to find where I belonged.  I had serious issues with the youth pastor sharing my confidential information like it was the weather.   I would go to church and the youth group meetings and I was invisible.  I could have been on fire and no one would have cared.  It was just a horrible thing.  I am so glad that I didn’t decide to base my opinions of God and Christians from this group of people.  If I had, I would be so lost and so wrong.  I have a really strong faith.  I guess I could kind of credit it to what I once referred to as a cult, to my relationship with God. It definitely made me realize that there are bad people in every religion and also good.

After that experience, I taught Sunday school at a Methodist Church.  It was a lot of fun.  I decided somewhere between after those experiences that I should be non-denominational Christian.  I think that there should only be God’s laws and not man’s. I loved the church I went to when I was married because it was totally God driven.  The Lord was totally in charge of the sermons and the things we took part in. It was an awesome thing.  I miss it so much still to this day.

My friend and I were talking about how sometimes churches are similar to MLM or Multi-Level Marketing. I totally agree because when I was at the church I went to when I was married and actually married in was totally not about donations. It was about God, and helping the community.  The church was really small as I know I have said before.  Money didn’t matter at all at this church was awesome.  It was just that we all knew God would provide.  The burden was placed in God’s hands and he provided what the church needed every time.  You have to surrender things and let God handle it.  It is hard to do  I know. I struggle with it daily. 

Something my friend and I talked about is people being preachy. There is a fine line between being excited and cramming it down someone’s throat.  I don’t usually bring up God to my friends. I am not ashamed of God or anything I just don’t want them to feel forced in to believing the same thing as me.  I am firm believer in the fact that it is a choice only you can make. I don’t think that God loves someone any less if they decide it is not right for them.  If my friends bring it up. I love talking about it.  I have never read the whole Bible so I can’t quote scripture but  I am pretty good at saying the right thing so my friends say.

I came up with an awesome analogy on Twitter the night we were talking about this.

I believe in planting seeds, watering them, waiting for them to grow, vs throwing a plant in a pot and having them not flourish.

That basically means you need to take the time to answer questions, pray for and really spend time talking about God with someone who is interested in learning more.

You have to give some TLC as you would to a newly planted seed.  Noah and I planted some zinnias last year from seeds, and they grew to be taller than he was.  Sure it took longer but they were flourishing like crazy. 

If you take a plant and throw it in a pot, the plant will not flourish, you can’t force it to grow and it doesn’t really wanna be in the pot any way.  It feels trapped in the pot.  It can’t spread or grow properly.    You can’t make someone believe in God, no matter how hard you try or want it for them.
You have to start from scratch and it has to be something someone wants you can water the plant as much as you want but it is up to the flower to blossom.